“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark than walk alone in the light.”
- Helen Keller

A trusted friend makes a world of a difference in our lives. On the flip side, it’s no easy feat being that friend to another. Here are our 10 things to say when we want to show our love and support for the people we care about.

1.     “Do you want to talk about it?”

Allow them to talk about what they’re going through. Put ourselves aside, and allow your friend to steer the conversation. Support them by giving them the space to decide what they are comfortable sharing.

2.     “I’m here to listen.”

No judgements or forcing our opinions or perspectives over theirs. Pause and just take time to put yourself in their shoes. Are they actually seeking a solution right now? Or just want someone to show they understand and is listening?

3.     “It sounds like you’re having a hard time.”

Reflecting what they are going through can be validating. It shows that you believe what they are saying to you. Their emotions are real and they are not “going crazy”!

4.     “How can I support you?”

Asking them how you can help them shows that you care. This reminds them that they are not alone. Both emotional and practical supports can be helpful to reduce the weight on their shoulders, so do what you can.

5.     “Let’s go do something together.”

Doing a fun or relaxing activity can be a helpful distraction. Inviting them to do so gives them the opportunity to take a brain break. Spending time together also reminds them that you are there for them!

6.     “I care for you, so I’m worried about you.”

Feeling concerned or worried about your friend shows that you care. Expressing this lets them know that you are thinking about them. Reassure them that they are not being a burden to you.

7.     “Thank you for sharing this with me.”

Show appreciation for them trusting you with their tough situation. Talking about it may not come easy. Acknowledge their effort to step up and talk about it. 

8.     “Would you like some coffee?”

Offering your friend a drink may sound simple, but it could really help boost their mood for the day. Little actions like this make the world go round.

9.     “Do you want to watch or hear something funny?”

Share something light about yourself, or something that you’ve encountered that could elicit a chuckle. Acknowledge it may not cure their troubles, but it may help lift their spirits a little.

10.  “Please take care of yourself, and let me know if there’s anything I can do.”

Provide your friend with some encouragement and words of care.

As Eeyore once said, “A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference.”